Regular readers will know that in the last couple of years, this blog has focused less on
Therapy a more on my recovery journey after breaking my hemi leg.
This experience has change me in so many ways, One of which was to begin to concentrate on me a little more and in my last blog post, I talked about how I had met someone, that I now planned to spend the rest of my life with.
I honestly never thought I would meet someone (sick buckets at the ready), that understands me, challenges me, loves me faults and all, with such honesty, passion and consideration.
Being in a committed relationship takes work and compromise. (I’m still learning) Marriage has never felt important and if I’m honest, I always saw it as a way to control women, marriage is still full of traditions and expectations of which as a feminist make me feel very uncomfortable.
The idea that the man asks the woman’s father for permission, then is expected to propose buying an expensive ring that the woman then wears as if she is now owned, than thats the mans job over and the woman is expected to take over, plan the day and look amazing in a white dress, feels so very odd. But for Anthony as a Catholic and from a loving family where marriage is respected and worked on. Showing the world that you are committed to this person is an act of love and respect.
It’s the social pressures and expectations that are the things about marriage on reflection I have an issue with, and when Anthony says I’ve been googling how to have a feminist wedding, you know you have landed with a good one.
We have talked at length about our hopes, wishes and desires, we both want the same things, and I’m now in a position, where I feel comfortable with the idea of marriage, as long as it’s done our way, and for us.
So I would like to say that today was an exciting day. We recently made a joint decision to get engaged and eventually get married. Today we attended a workshop and made each other rings to mark this joint decision, and a celebration of our future plans together.
We could not be happier.